I could write a book about parenting, but my meager stint is only a two-hour class on Sundays with the kids at church. I never think of it as less, but I have never been a mom (not yet) and I only learned how to put a baby’s diapers on when I was 26. (This was mainly because nobody thought I would need to know soon, so nobody bothered to coach. Reason: changing diapers comes with maternal instincts)(?).
Ok, so someone once said that we don’t need to be hens to know that the eggs are stale. This could be true, but on the contrary, we (I, for one) all need wisdom from above to know some of life’s most important subjects.
I firmly believe in “training a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it (Proverbs 22:6), so to share with you what God has been teaching me so far, I would give you a handy 101 list instead, which I would fill as I go through life (hopefully fill it sooner). You have probably done any of them one way or the other.
They come in any order of importance. Here goes:
1. Never, ever “terrify” your kids of “monsters” that are out to grab them - if they didn’t obey you.This sounds childish, and you’re right, it IS, but I’ve heard too many parents quickly pick this “easy” way. And not only is this childish, it also sows seeds of fear in your children, creating a doorway for the spirit of fear to spook them. You may think this is trivial, but the truth is, children start to fear dark places, and does NOT give the opportunity for God’s spirit to inhabit their minds and hearts. Find other ways to train them for obedience instead. Remember, we are raising kids to be Godly and victorious.
2. Be lavish on affirmation (and love!).Most children are bombarded by worldly standards, comparisons, people’s opinions, expectations, criticisms, and all the other destructive things that make them doubt, feel inferior, pity themselves, or lose their confidence. These happen as early as they start school, and unless they are home-schooled, they deal more with these things everyday, even simple issues as a test score that made them feel bad! Parents should always be quick to affirm with what God say in His Word, versus what they hear from other people. A strong foundation is your time with your kids to study the Bible. Back your affirmation with the Word of God, and always assure them of your unconditional love.