Unhealthy relationships

I would like to bring you back to what profoundly caught my attention last September, to an article written by an anonymous warrior-poet on unhealthy guy-girl interaction that every believer who is in hard pursuit of Jesus Christ ought to know..

He focused on what unhealthy interactions between guys and girls look like. He showed candidly what we have overlooked, because even the Christian world has done so and accepted what there is.

A pressing thing to look at nowadays is the time alone that guys and girls spend together, where a lot of strong Christians fall and give in to temptation. They think so foolishly that it is just OK because they are marrying them anyway. But does it really showcase the attributes of true Christ-likeness? Are we really strong enough to handle things our way? If we really love the Lord Jesus Christ and choose righteousness because of what He has paid for, should we be asking how far "too far" is? Shouldn't we be seeking how to honor the Lord more? Shouldn't our question be, "What more can i do, Lord, so i can honor You in my life?"

Chasing after opportunities on how to spend time alone with a guy can be extremely deadly. A Christian author said, "A man and his wife do not belong to each other until vows are said and the marriage ring is on both of their fingers." And Proverbs 25:28 says with caution, "A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls." (NLT). Now, who would want to be a defenseless city, with broken-down walls that invite the enemy to come and tear you to pieces?

Don't put yourself in vulnerable situations. The wisest thing to do is to hold yourself accountable through godly influences in your life (and i mean, really godly). "A true warrior-poet will notice when he's been left alone in a room with a girl, and (with gentility and politeness in tact) will make an exit as quickly and as courteously as possible. A man of God values his honor and a young woman's dignity too much to carelessly give a place to accusation or suspicion." 

Here's a rule to live by:

(Here's a similar post on how to deal with men the Godly way.)